• Erika Achilles

Happy Birthday to me...

Happy Birthday to me! It's my 39th birthday today and it's a long weekend!

Last week I sat around with a group of girl friends enjoying a glass of wine and a chat. The women around me were all ages and had various backgrounds. Some had kids, some didn’t, but all of them were what I would describe as successful. The topic of age came up and whether or not we liked to celebrate our birthdays and the passing of another year. The general consensus was definitely not. I was quite shocked.

I am one of those people who loves having a birthday. I plan it well in advance and make long lists of the things I want to do, what I’m going to wear and what I want to eat!

I look forward to it with the same childlike glee as I did at primary school.

I know that women don’t like getting older. That cliché has been around forever, I’m sure. But I wanted to know why, so I asked.

I expected references towards a misspent youth, wrinkles and a slowing metabolism. But it seems they disliked growing older because of what wasn’t happening. Because they’d all made plans. Little plans, big plans and shoot for the moon plans that they assumed they’d have accomplished by now. And while they’ve all ticked many things off their lists there were still those few dreams yet to come to fruition. For some it was falling short of career or financial goals.

Others wanted to travel or be married or have children.

So for them, birthdays seemed to have become a harsh reminder of all the things they hadn’t achieved and the promises they were breaking to themselves.

Who hasn’t fallen for this lie? I can’t count the number of times I’ve beaten myself up because I thought my goals had to have expiration dates.

What a downer on a day that supposed to be filled with cake and champagne!

It makes me sad that so many women are holding themselves back from what they truly want. They’re not wearing the outfits they want to wear, they’re not applying for the jobs they really want, they’re not starting the businesses they dream of creating.

They’re waiting for permission to change direction and for what?

Life is short. Decide who you want to be and go be her!

Have a fabulous long weekend and I hope it's sunny wherever you are.

Erika 🖤

P.S. I'm wearing the Ice Queen Coat.

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